Supporting your child who has failed their 11 Plus exams

For both you and your child, facing the news that they’ve failed their 11 Plus exam can be both disheartening and frustrating. But it’s important to try to stay positive and help your child through this difficult period in their education. 

If your child has failed their 11 Plus, we’re here to put your mind at ease. From addressing the issue to reassuring your child and providing support going forward, this guide will help you navigate detailing with failing the 11 Plus exams.

Addressing that your child has failed their 11 Plus exams

Understandably, disappointment and frustration can come with the realisation that your child did not pass their 11 Plus. Don’t let those feelings take over, however. 

Don’t let this hurdle define your child’s potential in school and beyond. Instead, address why your child may have struggled with their 11 Plus. 

  • Ask your child what they felt like they struggled with specifically

  • Talk to your child about what support they think may help

  • Communicate with their teachers to find out why your child may have struggled.

Reassuring your child who has failed their 11 Plus exams

To your child, after all the anticipation and preparation, failing their 11 Plus exams may feel like the end of the world. So the first thing to do is reassure them and try to build them back up from this knock to their confidence.

Shift the focus from failure to growth here and talk about how your child can still thrive going forward. They can use this opportunity to learn where they can improve with their studies going forward. 

Remind your child that they aren’t defined by their exams and their 11 Plus results. They can still thrive in their new school from here.

Providing support if your child has failed their 11 Plus exams

After addressing and reassuring your child about their struggles with the 11 Plus exams, it's time to provide ongoing support. Here are some steps to consider:

Encourage open communication

  • Foster an environment where your child feels comfortable discussing their feelings and concerns.

  • Actively listen to their thoughts on the challenges they faced during the 11 Plus exams.

Identify needed support

  • Ask your child about the specific support they feel they might need moving forward.

  • This could include additional study resources, tutoring, or emotional support.

Explore alternative learning methods

  • Investigate diverse learning approaches that may better resonate with your child's learning style.

  • Consider interactive educational tools, educational games, or real-world applications of subjects.

Create a motivating study environment

  • Establish a dedicated study space that is conducive to learning and free from distractions.

  • Personalise the environment with inspirational elements and positive reinforcement.

Foster a positive outlook

  • Emphasise the importance of growth and improvement over time.

  • Celebrate small victories and encourage a positive attitude towards future educational challenges.

Remember, your support plays a crucial role in helping your child overcome obstacles and build resilience. By actively engaging in their educational journey, you contribute to their confidence and ultimate success.

Resources for children ahead of 11 Plus exams

If you or your child are worried about the upcoming 11 Plus exams, we have resources available that can help you prepare.

How to pass the 11 Plus

Gain valuable insights into effective strategies for success with this guide.

GL 11 Plus exam information

Explore detailed information about the GL 11 Plus exam with this resource.

CEM 11 Plus exam information

Learn more about the CEM 11 Plus exam with this comprehensive guide.

11 Plus online tuition

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